My intent, insofar as creating posts for scene ideas, is to upload a post that is focused on a single concept. That is how I will handle such posts going forward. But Master asked me last night about ideas for a scene and she suggested that I select a specific “toy” for this coming weekend.
To me, the idea of focusing on a toy to guide our shared experience is, with no disrespect intended, backwards in approach.
Experiences
I seek psychological and emotional experiences to share with Master in the bedroom. Experiences are conceptual scenes that are crafted from our hearts, minds, and lusts. They are not realized by focusing on toys and other gear.
As a metaphor, we don’t go buy the materials, then inventory the woodworking skills we know, to then decide what kind of house we’ll build. That would be, well, bass-ackwards. We first decide on the house we want, we then determine what skills we need to build that house, and then we get the training and materials we need to build that house. Same concept here with scene construction.
I see it this way:
- Desired Experience
- Activities
- Toys /Props
- Activities
We first decide the kind of experience we’d like to share together, and I believe this can and should be done together (with Master having final say, of course). I then believe Master should select activities that she feels would best support the desired experience. Then I believe Master should decide if she needs any props to support those activities, and which ones.
Not all activities require props, and for those that do there may be multiple options. For example, having me perform cunnilingus requires no prop, but maybe Master decides to make it more humiliating by looking at her phone while I do it (the phone being the prop). But when it comes to pegging, well that kind of demands a prop and we have many choices (many many dildos, plugs, and harnesses).
I feel that Master and I should be talking in terms of the experiences we wish to share. There would likely be many commonalities between the experiences we would most want. But there would also be significant differences. Once Master has decided on an experience, then she can decide on the activities and toys, with indirect input from me. One input being, for example, the rest of this post.
Activities (the building blocks of Experiences)
Depending on the experience we’re going for, the ratio of activities focused on submission versus physical pleasure might change. But historically, I feel we have end up with near 90% of our activities focused on physical pleasure. I desperately want to change that. I don’t want to put limiters on Master, but it would be nice to try initially to limit acts of physical pleasure to less than 35% of the time. The bulk of our time together I would like to see focused on psychological and emotional aspects (for example through sexual ‘torture’, humiliation, conversation, teasing, and forced submission, just to name a few).
I would think of the activities we could do as being part of one of three broad categories:
- Activities that Engage Us Psychologically or Emotionally
And that foster, or outright demand my full submission. - Activities In-Between
These exist in a ‘grey zone’; they include elements of the psychological and emotional, and also may offer psychological, emotional, or physical pleasure. - Activities of Physical Pleasure
These are clearly centered on physical pleasure.
I desire 50-75% of the time we spend to be in categories 1 and 2, I desire 25-50% of our time together to be in categories 2 and 3.
The lists below are not exhaustive, I just wanted to capture some ideas which we could then discuss. This ideas are not in any specific order. I randomized them once I created them, so there is no sense to the order they are listed.
Simply said, I desire to feel like an object, to be used, treated poorly, abused, teased, humiliated, beaten. I wish for Master to take me to this state, witness me in it, accept me and then, after bringing me back, to nurture, embrace, and love me. It’s that simple, and that complicated.
Category 1
Activities that Engage Us Psychologically or Emotionally. This is an abridged list.
These are things I do not like in and of themselves, but I do like them if Master imposes them (with understanding.) To be clear, things get on this list because I do not like them, but my dislike is overridden if Master is demanding I do them, and she understands exactly what she’s doing. That ‘understanding’ can only come about if she has discussions with me about each item and tries to drive out the psychologies involved. These things are supposed to be undesirable to me (and they are!); that’s what makes them acts of submission. And if Master can imagine other things that are undesirable to me, not on my forbidden list, and of course aligns with her sensibilities, they are all fair game! (those are the best ones; the ones Master thought up herself because she understands me).
- Severe impact play
As in red, black and blue bruising, maybe even a little blood, but which is performed with a warmup and also with sexual stimulation. Needs to be very hard however to be effective. - Cock and Ball Torture
Kicking, slapping, or other forms of cock and ball torture. - Electrocution
With Neon Wand with silicone tips. - Electric Scrotum Collar
Having the electric collar placed around scrotum and used randomly (pleasure, noise, shock). - Hot Wax
Very hot wax poured on me. - Ice
Maybe a combo of ice and wax - Chastity Torture
To be stimulated while in chastity is torture. I hate it, but I love it at the same time. I hate that it hurts, but I love that Master knows it hurts and is hurting me with pleasure. Stimulate me physically of course, but also she can do so many other ways: such as using her vibrator and letting me know that she’s thinking of another man, and describing what is turning her on about him and what he’s doing to her, or she to him; or she can demand I tell her about a fantasy I have as she physically stimulates me and encourage me to explain what I like about it and what turns me on the most. An ejaculation while caged is horrific I am told (not to mention I’ll be forced to eat it afterwards and get a whipping to boot!). - Forced Fellatio
Being make to suck Master’s strap-on/dildo as a prelude to getting fucked by it (or not fucked by it). - Force To Swallow
Make me lick up and swallow all my semen. (now, for this, what would have had to happen is that she’s told me not to cum, but then she went and did exactly what she knew would make me cum; because this isn’t the final 25% time, this isn’t my actually release, so she ruins the orgasm as soon as she sees it happening (slaps her cock, takes her hand away at the moment of cresting, dismounts me, all the above, whatever), then makes me eat my cum followed by her beating me severely for cumming without permission. - Golden Showers
Piss on me (in truth, this might move to the next section if I like it, but I have no idea since I’ve never done it). But this comes with context, this is not just simply pee. This is a scene of domination; Master marking her territory and embarrassing me as she does it. It could be filmed, or she pisses on my cock and face, or berates and humiliates me with her words as she does it. - Humiliation (by restroom monitoring)
I‘m imagining that she’s bound me up in the morning and intends to keep me tied up all day. But, of course, I must use the restroom at some point. She has a collar on me, attaches the leash, walks me to the bathroom and allow me to sit on the toilet and do my business as she drinks her coffee and chats with me as I do my business. Then she watches as I clean myself and inspects me afterwards. Humiliating, embarrassing, and yet, intimate; something that would be hard to share with anyone else. Almost a grey item, but right now it terrifies me to imagine not only doing my business but them cleaning up fully afterwards. Very humbling, humiliating, and a clear display of domination, submission, and ownership. - Denied Orgasm While Being Teased
Master makes me put on porn I like, forces me to watch it, while she jerks me, telling me that if I cum I’ll be eating it and will get a beating, all while she does everything she can to make me cum. - Humiliation (using supposed societal ‘norms’)
Use societal norms to make me feel embarrassed that I like cocks and getting fucked by them, or that I like being whipped and dominated by women.
Category 2
Activities that exist in a grey zone between the psychological and emotional, and that may offer psychological or physical pleasure. This is an abridged list.
- Bondage
As Master knows, I love bondage. But that is because of its psychological effect on me. But to be effective, I need to believe that I am incapable of escape, and that I am as immovable as possible. And the more vulnerable a position I can be placed in, the better; the much better. I feel most vulnerable with armpits and sides exposed, as well as your cock and balls hanging freely, such as when my legs are wide apart. - Analingus
Master makes me lick her asshole (PLEASE!) and fuck it with my tongue. I do want this, but it is also a psychological mind-fuck. - Monitored Masturbation
Master makes me masturbate as she watches and demand that I tell her what I am thinking about. For this to work best, Master needs to be firm, but encouraging, no matter what the subject matter of my sexual thinking. Alternatively, she can use her time to humiliate me for being a weak male who has to constantly stroke her cock like an animal. - Humiliation (using societal ‘norms’)
Master forces me to fantasize about being with another man.- She has me stroke her cock and either recount a time I had sex with another man or share a fantasy about being with another man. Only caveat here is that any fantasy with another man will involve Master.
- Alternatively, Master makes me not touch myself (nor does she touch me) and has me recount or speak of a fantasy about us with another man.
- Cunnilingus
Master makes me go down on her. I love this, but it is submissive. - Face Fuck Me
Master sits on my face and rides it till she orgasms. If she makes me lick her, she holds my nose for breath play. As an alternative, rides me, covering my mouth and pinching my nose for breath play; I do need to be bound, hand and foot, for this to work best. - Edging
Truly edge me (this does not mean just keeping me erect – it means pushing buttons (psychological ones) that would lead to ejaculation but then coming off as it begins to happen (and then maybe even applying some pain to settle thing back before doing it again). Master can’t edge me with touch alone. Easiest things are to indulge my fantasies and to eagerly talk of them as if they were going to happen and what we’d do and with who. But she must sound engaged and interested, just recounting them with tension or trepidation will not work. Get me psychologically ready to explode and then back off. For this kind of play, she’ll know I’ve reached the proper state when I am whimpering. I never get that way with just physical touch alone. - Pegging
Being fucked by Master and her strap-on, especially if I can look into her eyes as she fucks me and strokes her cock. I love being taken by her, so long as I am under the impression that she truly wants me. So fun, and yet so submissive.
Category 3
Activities of Physical Pleasure. Master knows this category very well. This is an abridged list.
- Anilingus
I want my asshole licked and fucked by Master’s tongue. Preferably, as she strokes her cock to eruption. - Anal Sex (me -> Master)
I want to fuck Master anally and have her beg me for it. - Fantasy
I want to fuck Master while she demands and encourage me to think of another woman we know that I’d like to fuck, and to vocalize what I’d want to do with her exactly. - Fantasy
I want to fuck Master where she demands and encourage me to think of us with another man, and to vocalize what I’d want to have happen exactly, including him with her, him with me, and us all together. - Felatio
Of course I like having Master’s cock sucked, and balls licked. (all the normal stuff) - Swallow
I love it when Master tells me, and makes me truly believe that she wants to swallow me. (I don’t even care if she actually does it; I just want to believe it. It is psychological, but in a purely pleasurable way. I would love if Master was the ‘Lucy’ to my ‘Charlie Brown’ and regularly made me believe she’d really hold that football.
